IN 20 QUESTIONS
1. How long have you been sober?
✔︎ 5 years.
2. What did you do before this?
✔︎ If you mean, what did I do for work before becoming a recovery coach, I worked with a skincare company. And before that, I ran an ETSY business out of my home when my littles were littler. Before that, I was a Chemistry teacher, before that, a Chemist. Other interesting occupation fact: I ran a wedding cake business when I was in grad school (I even made my own wedding cake). And I've always considered myself a writer, whether I was publishing anything or not.
3. Will you ever drink again?
✔︎ I drink all the time! One can't live without fluids! Oh, you mean alcohol? Not a chance.
✔︎ It was no longer serving me, in fact, it was killing me! You can read my book to find out more! Also, it's poison, so, no. No thanks.
5. How long have you been married?
✔︎ Over 17 years
6. Do you really have five kids?
✔︎ Yep, really. And no, none of them are twins, yes, they are all mine, and yes they have the same father...the same guy I've been married to for over 17 years!
7. What do you do for fun if you don't drink alcohol?
✔︎ Everything. Alcohol is literally not required for in order to have fun or enjoy life in any way. But if you want more specific examples, I love spending time with friends and family, going to movies (popcorn!), traveling, getting massages, taking baths, playing board games, drinking coffee, shopping, running, eating dessert, biking, going to the beach, reading, and writing, among many other things! I've even gone wine tasting, which seems counterintuitive because I didn't taste any wine, but I enjoyed the company of friends and ate ALL the snacks.
8. Does your husband still drink?
✔︎ Yep, occasionally. He doesn't drink when we are out together, and he may have a beer when friends come over, or he may not. He can take it or leave it. He also knows that it's addictive and is aware that it could be a problem for anyone at any time. Awareness and education are key.
9. Will you ever have a sip?
✔︎ Nope. Still nope. Not on a plane, not in a train, not in a house, not with a mouse.
10. Do you work a 12-step program?
✔︎ I attend AA occasionally, and I also utilize SHE RECOVERS, This Naked Mind, see a therapist regularly, practice meditation, exercise, write in a journal, etc. I support multiple pathways to recovery, and recognize that everyone has a different path. I don't think AA is the only way, which rubs some people the wrong way, which is totally ok (as is impromptu poetry).
11. Do you take medication?
✔︎ I assume you mean medication for mental health, and the answer is yes and no. I have taken prescription medication on and off for years, though I was able to eliminate it thanks to TMS therapy (another thing you can read about in my book). I also take thyroid medication, vitamin D, probiotics, and multi-vitamins, if you're interested! I consider those no different than any mental health support medication.
12. I heard if you are on medication you can't be considered sober.
✔︎ Some people believe that, but I am not one of those people. I am a huge believer in science and medication assisted recovery.
13. Are you done having kids?
✔︎ I no longer have a uterus so that shop is closed, but yes, our family is complete and we won't be adding any more children. I'm not opposed to adding more dogs, however.
14. Are you going to write another book?
✔︎ Sure am, working on it now :)
15. Who are your favorite authors.
✔︎ So many to name! Brene Brown, Cheryl Strayed, Glennon Doyle, Elizabeth Gilbert, Annie Grace, Sarah Hepola, Lisa Smith, Laura McKowen, Amy Dresner, Anna David, Erica Spiegelman, Ann Dowsett Johnson, Anne Lamott, Augusten Burroughs, Lisa Boucher, Kristi Coulter....
16. Can you help me get sober?
✔︎ Maybe! If you're a mom, check out Sober Mom Squad! I personally believe that sobriety is possible for anyone, and beneficial to everyone. Take this assessment to find out more (link TBA)
17. Are you a prohibitionist?
✔︎ Nope! Alcohol is legal for adults and I have no reason to believe that will ever change, nor do I think it needs to! However, it is a drug, and it has risks, so we need to be more educated about the real dangers of it, and the impact it has on our kids. I think most people could stand to drink less, but I'm not interested in leading the charge to rid everyone's houses of alcohol.
18. What's your favorite mocktail?
✔︎ I'm a sparkling water lover! You will always find me with a can of seltzer in my purse, and usually several empty cans fall out of my car door when I open it. I am currently loving Hoplark Hop Tea, Gruvi N/A rose, Athletic Brew Near Beer, Surely N/A wine, and Dry Botanical Bubbly! I do love the occasional Coke, especially with popcorn at a movie. Now that I've been in the sobriety space for awhile, I've tried many fun NA beverages! If you have any recommendations, or want me to try your fave, let me know! I'm always interested in hearing about them!
19. Am I an alcoholic?
✔︎ No idea. I asked myself that question for YEARS. There are plenty of quizzes and assessments out there that you can take, (I have one here) but, my question for you is, does it matter? Ask yourself if alcohol is serving you (probably isn't) and if you feel better without it (you probably do) and then decide what to do from there. Don't get so hung up on labels.
20. I have more questions, where can I find you?
✔︎ The best place to contact me is here.
Emily is a writer, speaker, Certified Naked Mind Coach, She Recovers Designated Coach, Certified Facilitator of Addiction Awareness, and the founder of Sober Mom Squad. She has appeared on media outlets including The Today Show, The Doctors, The Tamron Hall Show, New York Times, Chicago Tribune, and USA Today, discussing how to end the shame and stigma of mental health and substance abuse. Emily is the author of Highlight Real: Finding Honesty & Recovery Beyond the Filtered Life and the forthcoming book Hey Hun: Selling Sisterhood, Supplements, and Supremacy (May 2023). She resides in Central Oregon with her husband and their five children.